Alright lads – a little advice, shall we? After talking with many female friends, these things – which seem so obvious – obviously actually need to be said.

When you first contact a lady – don’t expound on the pounding you’re ready to give her. There’s a time for dirty talk – and first email contact is not it. This has, quite simply, never worked in the history of eDating. Ok, maybe somewhere there’s a completely wanton slut who’s ready to spread her legs at the first dirty word she hears. But I’ve never met her – and I know some proudly slutty women. Expecting your clever talk of filling cracks to cause such an act… well, you’ll do better with the lotto.

When you get a ‘No thanks,’ don’t lash back. It’s not like you’re going to convince her that she’s an awful person and you deserve to be the one to take her fruit, thanks to showing her the error of her ways. It’s not like you can convince her that, actually, she is attracted to you. It’s not like she’s waiting for someone to challenge her thru name-calling – that’s how she’ll recognize The One.

Besides – in the cases where the brush-off has nothing to do with you, a gracious moving on will, sometimes, result in her returning your way after some other situation resolves itself. You’ve proven yourself a non-creep by not getting all snippy – which, sadly, seems to be the default response of the rejected men out there.

Hey, if your ego hurts, spill it elsewhere. Yelling at her does no good, and much bad.

When you are actually wronged – beyond the perceived, a concrete slight – don’t pursue it. Move along. It may be tempting to go to shared online forums and talk smack, but trust – this only makes you look bad. You’re hurting your future. Really – it comes down to one thing.

Rule #2 – Don’t Be A Jerk.

Ok, yes, we’ve all been trained by years of seeing the asshole get the girl.

But, guess what? It’s not that he’s an asshole. In fact, the assholic tendencies are merely a symptom of the attractive quality – the confidence. Confidence is so attractive, that women will put up with an asshole to be near it.

But guys – when you think that being an ass is going to get you anywhere – think again. In fact, when you’re doing it out of a place of insecurity – as most yellers do – then you’re giving them twice the reason to reject you. No confidence, and an asshole to boot.

Learn to be fine with the negative – ‘cause you’re fine with yourself. Even if you’re not – practice, eventually your attitude will fit your actions.

There’s no reason to be a jerk. Be funny, be happy, be attractive – but not an asshole. Trust me – the few women who actually are attracted to nasty men are not the kind of women you want anyway. Way too big a headache. You get quality women by being a quality man. Part of that is taking things in stride – not whining to the woman who did it to you.